I had a setback last week. Something out of my control, however it awakened some dark and confusing feelings about my self-worth. I was angry, yes, but I also felt shame. I jumped right back on that carousel of suffering I thought I’d let behind.

Round and around again…


“Why did this happen?”

“What is wrong with me?”

“Why can’t I just get it together?”

“Where am I supposed to go from here?”


But then I realized I had no control over this setback – literally. There was nothing I could have done to change the outcome. I mean, I own that I mess up – a lot. Yet, this one was not on me.

It still was painful.

To deal with the disappointment, I moved to anger…


“How dare they treat me this way?”

“Who do they think they are?”

“I was used and abandoned!”




The anger dissipated. I couldn’t be bothered with it.

On the surface? Sure, there is some residual pain and feelings of rejection, but when I examine the situation deeply? Nothing. I don’t mean to sound glib, but I just don’t care.

This is a very, very good thing.

I am beginning to consistently reject the idea that I need to be something to others. Instead I choose to walk authentically in truth. And the truth is…


“I am good at what I do.”

“I am loved by people.” “

“I will find my way – I just need to keep getting up and moving forward.”


It’s even more than that…


“I am fearfully and wonderfully made!”

“I am a child of God and He has my best interests at heart.”

“He is honing me and shaping me into the best use of His creation.”


Yes. There was a setback.

But the setback has awakened something new in me. It has afforded me the ability to explore something I’ve been wanting to do. If this disappointment hadn’t happened I don’t know if I would have been open to be led in this direction.

But here I am. On the cusp of a new adventure. Scared and happy and unsure – all at the same time. One certain thing is the knowledge God will be with me, every step of the way.



One thought on “Setback

  1. Anonymous says:

    God never leaves us alone , He knows you’re ❤️ .


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